How To: (Safely) Suppress the Gag Reflex

How To: (Safely) Suppress the Gag Reflex

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The enemy of every blow job-lover seems to be the nefarious gag reflex. I feel like every day, someone has an entirely new idea on how to suppress that handy little spasm that prevents us from choking.

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The gag reflex is also called the pharyngeal reflex. And it’s not just caused when the throat is irritated. It can also be caused by the back of the tongue, the tonsils, or even the roof of your…

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VIDEO: If Buying Condoms Was Like Buying Birth Control

VIDEO: If Buying Condoms Was Like Buying Birth Control

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Have you seen this yet? If you haven’t, take a seat. It’s not very long but it makes a great point.

It uses parody to change the perspective on the purchase of birth control. A young man awkwardly asks his father if he can see his, ‘man doctor,’ then receives an uncomfortable examination from a female doctor, then has to go through…

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Looking to bang the ghost with the most? Wanna raise what’s in the dead’s pants? Ready to hump that furry in a hurry?

No problem, my costume-loving characters. You can stay safer and still stay in the spirit of the spooky season!

Get your Trustex Dual Color Orange & Black condoms for all your Halloween afterparty festivities (they also make great additions to gift bags). Remember, nothing is scarier than getting caught in a spiderweb of unwanted pregnancy or STIs! Order today while there’s still time! 

Note: These FDA approved condoms are made from lightly lubricated latex and do not have a Spicy Gear logo on them. 

Best Butt Plugs

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Here at Spicy Gear, we’re anal about anal. So, we asked ourselves, “Which components create the perfect butt plug?”

Well, that all depends of what features you are looking for. Whether you want to play with your prostate in the shower, wear one around the house, vibrate yourself into in an internal orgasm or experience temperature play– our best body plug buying guide can point you in the right…

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**5 THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT SLUT SHAME THIS HALLOWEEN**
1. Calling women sluts/whores/skanks is a form of sexism.When it comes to costumes, clothing, and sexual behavior, women are judged by a very different rubric than men.  When a guy has a lot of sex, he’s a stud.  If a woman behaves the same way, she’s a “whore”, “dirty”, “used up”, and doesn’t deserve to be treated with respect.  While people may use terms like “manslut” or “manwhore”, the consequences for the “manwhore” are not nearly as extreme.  People don’t see him as unworthy of respect.  He won’t be degraded, bullied, or have lies and rumors spread about him.  His reputation won’t be destroyed.  Being a “manwhore” is dismissed as him *~just being a guy~*.  
Because slut shame is a result of sexist ideas about what a woman “should” be or is allowed to do/be in the first place, women slut-shaming each other is a form of internalized sexism.  This is where a woman believes sexist things about herself and other women.  It can be very disruptive and harmful to women’s relationships with each other.  
These are some of the ways slut shame is entrenched in sexism.
2. Slut shame limits women’s freedom.Calling women names and degrading them when they *break the rules* about how a woman is SUPPOSED to dress or behave ensures that women don’t have the same freedom men do.  They are not allowed to dress or do what they like…unless they want to pay the price of being bullied or dehumanized for it.
3. Slut shame is one of the ways women compete with each other for male approval.   Slut-shaming creates a divide between women.  There are the “slutty stupid ones” with “no self respect” and there are the “proper ladies” who deserve to be treated as human.  Instead of building women up and cultivating healthy friendships, slut shame turns women against each other so that the slut-shamer can prove she’s “not like that” and therefore worthy of respect.  It puts women into harmful categories based on nothing more than how someone dresses or is perceived by others.  
4. Slut shame is a form of bullying.Girls who break outside the mold of what they are supposed to do/be sexually and are thusly labeled sluts are at a higher risk of anxiety, depression, and suicide.  There have been many suicides that started with bullying in the form of slut shame. RIP Felicia Garcia, Amanda Todd, Phoebe Prince, Hope Witsell, Stacey Rambold’s unnamed victim, and all the other young women who have tragically taken their own lives because of the heartlessness and sexism of their peers.
5. Slut shame leads to rape, sexual assault, and sexual violence.Because people see “sluts” as unworthy of respect, she is therefore not entitled to say no.  In this mentality, “sluts” become a target of harassment, assault, and even rape.  After the violence, she is then blamed for it.  After all, she was just a dumb slut….she asked for it, right?
This Halloween (and always) be a good person.  Respect women, respect their choices, and check yourself when you find yourself thinking or saying someone is a slut.  It’s a deeply held attitude about women that we all learn from our sexist culture, and it is vital that we all take the time to unlearn it.  These attitudes are more vicious and dangerous than they might appear.
xx
Laci

lacigreen:

**5 THINGS EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT SLUT SHAME THIS HALLOWEEN**

1. Calling women sluts/whores/skanks is a form of sexism.
When it comes to costumes, clothing, and sexual behavior, women are judged by a very different rubric than men.  When a guy has a lot of sex, he’s a stud.  If a woman behaves the same way, she’s a “whore”, “dirty”, “used up”, and doesn’t deserve to be treated with respect.  While people may use terms like “manslut” or “manwhore”, the consequences for the “manwhore” are not nearly as extreme.  People don’t see him as unworthy of respect.  He won’t be degraded, bullied, or have lies and rumors spread about him.  His reputation won’t be destroyed.  Being a “manwhore” is dismissed as him *~just being a guy~*.  

Because slut shame is a result of sexist ideas about what a woman “should” be or is allowed to do/be in the first place, women slut-shaming each other is a form of internalized sexism.  This is where a woman believes sexist things about herself and other women.  It can be very disruptive and harmful to women’s relationships with each other.  

These are some of the ways slut shame is entrenched in sexism.

2. Slut shame limits women’s freedom.
Calling women names and degrading them when they *break the rules* about how a woman is SUPPOSED to dress or behave ensures that women don’t have the same freedom men do.  They are not allowed to dress or do what they like…unless they want to pay the price of being bullied or dehumanized for it.

3. Slut shame is one of the ways women compete with each other for male approval.  
Slut-shaming creates a divide between women.  There are the “slutty stupid ones” with “no self respect” and there are the “proper ladies” who deserve to be treated as human.  Instead of building women up and cultivating healthy friendships, slut shame turns women against each other so that the slut-shamer can prove she’s “not like that” and therefore worthy of respect.  It puts women into harmful categories based on nothing more than how someone dresses or is perceived by others.  

4. Slut shame is a form of bullying.
Girls who break outside the mold of what they are supposed to do/be sexually and are thusly labeled sluts are at a higher risk of anxiety, depression, and suicide.  There have been many suicides that started with bullying in the form of slut shame. RIP Felicia Garcia, Amanda Todd, Phoebe Prince, Hope Witsell, Stacey Rambold’s unnamed victim, and all the other young women who have tragically taken their own lives because of the heartlessness and sexism of their peers.

5. Slut shame leads to rape, sexual assault, and sexual violence.
Because people see “sluts” as unworthy of respect, she is therefore not entitled to say no.  In this mentality, “sluts” become a target of harassment, assault, and even rape.  After the violence, she is then blamed for it.  After all, she was just a dumb slut….she asked for it, right?

This Halloween (and always) be a good person.  Respect women, respect their choices, and check yourself when you find yourself thinking or saying someone is a slut.  It’s a deeply held attitude about women that we all learn from our sexist culture, and it is vital that we all take the time to unlearn it.  These attitudes are more vicious and dangerous than they might appear.

xx

Laci

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Anonymous Asked:
Help! I am a girl, and I bought a bullet vibrator today (first vibrator!!). I tried to use it today, and it HURT! I'm a virgin, and it's only about an inch wide and a few inches long. I tried to get if in and my vag basically pushed it out (even with lube)! I usually masturbate with a shower head to orgasm. How do I use a bullet vibrator to get that same feeling? Bc my roommates are getting suspicious of my constant showering- and I've got no more excuses!

It’s super awesome that you are experimenting with new sensations and getting to know your body more thoroughly. Too bad your roommates aren’t as sex positive as you are. Remember, when it comes to making yourself cum, there is nothing to be ashamed of, and there is no right or wrong way to go about it.

You’re not alone. Shower head masturbation is so well-loved, we included it in our Spicy Blog in an article called How To: Hands-Free Masturbation. The main difference between a shower head and an insertable vibrator is direct clitoral stimulation.

I suggest reading Your U-Spot and You to learn more about using your vulva to climax, instead of your vagina. You may want to try your vibrator on the outside parts of you, or get one made for clitoral stimulation. Some great suggestions are listed in Get Lit, Clit: Our Favorite Clitoral Vibes.

Penetration of your vaginal canal is not necessary for an orgasm, but you may want to try a waterproof vibrator in addition to the familiar and pleasurable shower head as a way of easing into the feeling of penetration. 

If you ever unintentional feel pain during masturbation, that is nature’s way of saying that you aren’t ready for that particular activity. Switch positions, go slower or try a different toy. 

Got any posts on how to give blowjobs for those that don't like giving them? I want to please my boyfriend when sex isn't a very appealing idea

Hmmm, this is an interesting request. I broke it down into two parts. 

Yes, Spicy Gear does have some Spicy Blogs on making fellatio safer for everyone involved and tastier for those who are iffy about the flavor of their partner. Our brother site, the Condom Depot Learning Center, also has articles on the subject, which I’ve linked to as well. 

  1. What’s the Best Lube For…
  2. The Logistics of a Successful 69
  3. Top Ten Products for Fun and Fearless Fellatio
  4. Fellatio Tips, Tricks & Techniques
  5. The Facts: Oral and Anal HPV

That being said, we also have resources about consent and a/demisexuality, which may be helpful for you if you are thinking of doing anything you are uncomfortable with, or not ready for, simply to please another.

Wanting to make your partner happy and sexually satisfied is natural and normal, but so is making sure you are both completely on board first. For the best time for both of you, be sure to communicate any concerns and reservations with your partner, so they can be fully addressed beforehand.

  1. Consent Vs. Coercion
  2. An Asexuality Primer
  3. Categorizing Sexual Orientation: The Terms and Origins

Best of luck, I hope this was helpful and remember to relax and stay safe!

Product Review: WET Naturals Beautifully Bare

Product Review: WET Naturals Beautifully Bare

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The first thing I noticed about WET Naturals Beautifully Bare was how cool it felt to the touch. When I looked on the back at the ingredients on the back of the 3.3oz flip-top bottle, it came as no surprise to me that aloe is one of the first ingredients listed.

beautifullybarereviewThe addition of this aloe is startlingly noticeable when compared to the WET Lightwhich I reviewed last week. The aloe meant that it…

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Lube Review: WET Light

Lube Review: WET Light

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WET sure makes some fabulous personal lubricants. While they’re better known for their flavored lubes, like WET Fun Flavors, their entry into the light lube category ain’t too shabby either.

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I don’t really know what lube companies mean when they say that a lube is light. Is it because it has a water base so it’s not as strong as a silicone based lube? But this isn’t WET’s only water-based lube.…

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Next Gen Gardasil Shot

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Next Gen Gardasil Shot

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Hopefully, you already know about HPV, the skin-to-skin sexually transmitted virus with over 40 distinct subtypes, some of which can cause oral, anal or cervical cancer or genital warts.

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